Ordinary thought is that you communicate well by speaking what’s on your mind.
If you spoke what was on your mind and you are communicating well, why is the divorce rate more roughly 40%? And why are 70% of failed business projects fail due to miscommunication?
That’s a big disconnect between perception and reality. Yet, you can’t deny the statistics. They represent the high-level facts that how you communicate follows you from the boardroom to the bedroom.
Don’t think so?
Let’s play this out. Your communication (and leadership) style is like a bull in a china shop. The good news. You get stuff done and the results are noticed. Feels like a win/win. Truth is: you are a bully. You were likely bullied or you were bullied or pushed around. Your communication and leadership style is fear based. Just because you get results doesn’t mean you’re a good communicator. At home, your approach is similar, or you are bullied and so you avoid conflict or confrontation yet only to take it out elsewhere.
In business most often the outcome of this communication and leadership style are disgruntled employees or high turnover, chaotic work environment, lack of trust in teams and failed projects, etc. Even if your style gets the (perceived positive) desired sales and number results, other areas of business see negative side effects or numbers.
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